A Romance Writer's Love Life

This week's guest blogger is author Eliza Knight, and her post is fun and titillating to say the least. Have fun reading AND commenting, since one lucky commenter will win a $10 Amazon giftcard!


I’m not alone in being asked this question. In fact, on a panel of several authors a couple of weeks ago, we were all asked. A burning question in readers minds that I’m about to answer for you—well two really.

ONE: what is our love life like? And TWO: do our husbands like that we write romance?

Now, I’ve been known to joke around and say I turned my husband down because I’d already had sex with a few heroes that day, but in all reality –the real honest truth? We are pretty normal. What does every consenting adult romantic relationship involve? I’ll give you a few seconds to think about it… If you guessed, sex, then you are correct!

Sex is a natural part of romance. When we love someone, we like to share that love, and our bodies, with them through a sexual experience. This could be something as simple as a kiss to something major and adventurous (insert your fantasy here). Sometimes we want to make slow, sweet love, sometimes we want to be, as one reader put it when asking me, “freaks in the bed.” :-)

There are days when I’ve done a marathon of writing, cleaned the house, made dinner, and then taken three different princesses to three different after-school activities, and I might be too exhausted to do more than pat my husband on the back and say goodnight. And then there are days when I’m begging him to come home early before the princesses get off the school bus.

Do our husbands love that we write romance? I can answer for myself and many authors I’ve spoken to about it—YES. They are involved in many of research studies *wink*. They get to reap the rewards of agonizing over a love scene all day. Let’s face it—if our love scene doesn’t turn us on, it won’t increase the heartbeats of our readers.

Keep reading romance (and, if you’re a writer, keep writing!). I read in a study that romance readers have more fulfilling and lasting relationships than other readers. Maybe it’s because reading romance makes us smile, makes us happy, and it makes us want to be romantic with our partners.

Go forth, read! And share your love with someone!



Eliza Knight is the multi-published, award-winning, Amazon best-selling author of sizzling historical romance and erotic romance.

While not reading, writing or researching for her latest book, she chases after her three children. In her spare time (if there is such a thing…) she likes daydreaming, wine-tasting, traveling, hiking, staring at the stars, watching movies, shopping and visiting with family and friends. She lives atop a small mountain, and enjoys cold winter nights when she can curl up in front of a roaring fire with her own knight in shining armor.

Visit Eliza at www.elizaknight.com or her historical blog
History Undressed: www.historyundressed.com.

Winner of InD’Tale Magazines Best Historical Novel 2012!

She belonged to another… But was destined to be his…

Lady Arbella de Mowbray abhors the idea of marrying an English noble occupying Scotland. When she arrives in Stirling, she is thrown into the midst of a full battle between the Scots and the English. Besieged by rebels, she is whisked from her horse by a Highland warrior who promises her safety. But when he kisses her she fears she's more in danger of losing herself.

 The last thing Magnus Sutherland wants is to marry the beautiful English lass he saved. As the laird of his clan, he has a responsibility to his clan and allies. But when Arbella is attacked by one of his own men, he determines the only way to keep her safe is to make her his. A decision that promises to be extremely satisfying.

 Magnus brings Arbella to his home of Dunrobin Castle in the Highlands. And that’s where the trouble begins… Their countries are at war and they should be each other’s enemy. Neither one considered their mock marriage would grow into a deeply passionate love. What’s more, they were both unhappily betrothed and those who've been scorned are out for revenge. Can their new found love keep them together or will their enemies tear them apart?


  1. Great post, Eliza! Reading/writing romance makes me verra happy. =)


  2. Agreed! I LOVE writing my sex scenes but it is also difficult to not make them cliché or ridiculous, or read like a medical journal. What I find particularly interesting is how every author brings something new to the table (or bed) and puts their own spin on the delicious act of making love.
    I just finished a closed door story for Christmas and I understand that everyone doesn't want to read details, but personally, if I write a 'sweet' story, I feel like someone hasn't arrived at the party yet. Same when I read. I wanna hear a few details!

  3. Thank you so much, Eliza, for a great article and a sassy topic!!!
    Jena Lang, you are our winner for the giftcard! I'll be emailing you directly....
    Christine M. Fairchild