Back when my kids were young and I was a stay-at-home mom, I used to look SO forward to the first day of school. Because that meant for a few hours every day, the house would be mine. I could get back into a routine—workout and clean the house in the morning, write in the afternoon until the kids got home.
Now, the kids are older. They still went back to school (high school and college), but it’s not such an exciting time anymore. Why? Because I don’t need a break from them like I used to when they were younger, more demanding and more needy.
Now that they’re older...they just don’t need me as much and they’re not home much, and when they are home, they’re doing their own thing. We all work, and trying to find a time when all of us aren’t working or doing our own thing just doesn’t happen very often. Okay, never.
That’s why I was so excited to take a family trip last month. We, along with my mother in law (whom I actually like, so don’t roll your eyes LOL), headed down to
We weren’t disappointed. It really was right on the beach. It was big, it was clean, and did I mention it was right on the beach? People asked us what we were going to do down there. Surf? Go to the nearby sand dunes (not so nearby FYI)? Visit all the little shops?
Nope. Our plans were simple: Hang out with each other in the house and on the beach. Period. And that’s all we did. We walked on the beach together. We hiked the neighborhoods overlooking the ocean together. We built a fire and roasted marshmallows and made s’mores together. We played card games together. And we even—gasp!—ate meals together, something that rarely happens at home.
Nobody was bored, not even my 17-year-old son and nephew (pseudo son who lives with us). Not even my mother in law who’s like the Energizer Bunny and needs to be “doing something” constantly.
The five days we spent down there went by way too quickly. [Big sigh here]. And the first day of school also came way too fast. For the first time in years, this milestone actually made me a bit sad, because it means we are back to our routines of seeing each other as we’re coming and going.
Which is why we’ve already planned another family outing—